Pain is a marvelous purifier…It is not necessary to beat the child into submission; a little bit of pain goes a long way for a young child. However, the spanking should be of sufficient magnitude to cause the child to cry genuinely.
- James Dobson
This quote by none other than James Dobson is disturbing. For all those who have been softened to the idea of hitting kids, this is extremely disgusting. First of all the idea of pain being a “marvelous purifier” may actually be true. Whenever I had to deal with pain it often made a me better person. I become grateful for the help of others, learned to not take for granted all the basic things of life, often prayed more, and it prepared me for the future. However the pain that is afflicted by a parent to a child cannot not be called marvelous. For this pain does not purifier but adulterates. This pain is a catalyst for a twisted and broke relationship.
Secondly Dobson claims that it is not necessary to beat the child into submission. However is not that the whole point of spanking? To make the child behave and stop doing what the parent wants them to? He further confuses us when he says that only a little pain is needed for a young child but it still has to be hard enough to engender a genuine cry. What! Seriously this is insane. First he is trying to tell us to quantify the amount of pain you inflict on a child to its minimum and secondly he says do it hard enough to make them really cry. Kind of confusing if you ask me.
After all since pain is different from person to person does not that make nearly impossible to quantify anyways?
Lastly, what really surprises me about this quote is that it is callous to the pain of young children. Please don’t mess with the kids. This is my plea every time I see a crazy horror flick or action movie. I think people who advocate this type of twisted teaching do not realize what pain really is.If every spanking was televised it would be banned in a day? Pain is the expression the body gives when something is hurt and damaged. The nerve receptors are being damaged along with the child’s love and respect for his parents. Sometimes this emotional pain can carry scars that last a lifetime.
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- “Harsh” Childhood Punishments Tied To Disease, Obesity Later (todayinchildsafety.com)
- Beat Me Because You Love Me! I Don’t Understand….. (bewellandlive.wordpress.com)
- Attachment Parenting with Special Needs (mysensoryhero.com)